Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Truthful Tuesdays - Letting Go

It's Tuesday again, and time to get truthful!  Elizabeth over at Confessions from a Working Mom asks us this week:

How has motherhood taught you to let go?

Now that I have made it through the first year of motherhood, I already notice differences between this year and last, as far as my mothering goes.  I think I have let my expectations go.  My expectations of myself, of BBZ, of my husband, and just let things be as they are, because they are just fine!  I know BBZ wakes up at night when he doesn't feel well, so I go and nurse him back to sleep.  I've let go of my worry that this will be a habit and I just do it.  I have let go of the expectation that BBZ will always behave when we are out.  I am prepared to leave if we have to because he, like the rest of us, has bad days too.  I am trying to let go of the fact that N just doesn't hear the monitor.  If I want him to get up with BBZ, I have to wake him up and ask him to get up.  That's just the way it is.  I understand now that BBZ is going to get sick...a lot.  I am going to have to miss work and pay copays and it's going to be expensive.  It sucks, but that's life.  I have accepted that I cannot cook 100% healthy fresh foods for my family all the time.  Gerber foods are not poison and having some in the cabinet are helpful when N and I eat leftovers or order something BBZ won't eat.  It's ok...he's not going to go into some sort of food hypnosis.  Mostly healthy food is better than no healthy food.

So I guess my point is that I had certain expectations of the kind of perfect mother I would be.  I am letting some of those expectations go and rolling with the punches.  It is actually quite refreshing!


  1. I've also learned to be prepared to leave places-- like church, a restaurant, even a playdate-- at a moment's notice if things get out of hand! Here's to "rolling with the punches"!

    Confessions From A Working Mom

  2. I came to terms with the whole food thing years ago when I realized that at least there are no preservatives in the Gerber foods! That made me feel better. And when I spent the extra few cents on organic, it really helped. I'm with you on the men not hearing the monitor, too. What in the world is up with that????

  3. I think letting go can sometimes make you a better parent. As BBZ gets older your rolling with the punches now will really help when he has a mind of his own:-) I have a feeling he will as spirited, if not more, than you and N because of the love, acceptance and freedom that you give him.